How To Get Your Kid To Eat... But Not Too Much

Contents

1. Introduction: All about feeding
   Feeding troubles parents - What it's like for the child - Why this book? - A new look at feeding - Problems with feeding
2. Quit when the job is done
   The division of responsibility in feeding - How it applies - How it helps - Limiting your efforts - Dividing responsibility as children grow up
3. Pressure doesn't work 
   Almost everybody forces - Forcing can take many forms - Pressure can be forcing food in - Pressure can be withholding food - Pressure can be on food acceptance - Children vary in their eating - Forcing can make a child grow poorly - Children can call out forcing - even subtle forcing backfires - Parents must understand why they force
4. How much should your child eat?
   You can't predict - Children vary day-to-day - Children vary child-to-child - Controlling amounts doesn't work - Growth is determined mostly by genes - Helping your child like his body - Understanding kids' growth - Surprises in growth - Girls and dieting
5. What is normal eating?
   Definition for adults - Variations in normal - Temperament - Hunger - Love of eating - Food preferences - Tempo - Capability - Difficulty learning to eat - Miscellaneous glitches
6. Nutritional tactics for preventing food fights
   Choose age-appropriate food - Have regular meals and snacks - Take snacks seriously - Making eating worthwhile - Make some modifications - On the matter of vegetables - About milk - Considering meat - On breads and cereals - Margin of error - The dietary guidelines - The problems of excess - Set reasonable goals
7. The newborn
   Feeding the newborn - Learning how babies talk - A spitting-up problem - Observe feeding interactions - Feeding small babies - Observing your baby - What about spoiling? - Feeding and growth - Obesity - Poor growth
8. The older baby
   The six- to twelve-month-old - Parenting - The mechanics of feeding - Starting solids - Table food - Feeding going well - Feeding going poorly - The consequences of poor feeding - The rewards of good feeding
9. Is your toddler jerking you around at the table?
   Understanding the toddler - Parenting the toddler - Going along, helping - Setting limits - Hanging in there - Choose your battles - Have regular meals and snacks - Make mealtime pleasant - Hang loose about food acceptance - Don't short-order cook - Be realistic about amounts - Get there first - Keep her comfortable - Know your audience - Know your nutrition - Don't be too free with juice and milk - Don't make dessert a reward - Help your child be successful with eating - Keep her safe - Obesity - Ignore miscellaneous kinky behavior
10. The popular preschooler
    Understanding the preschooler - Childishness - Purposefulness - Parenting the preschooler - Supporting your child's initiative - Parenting with food - Have structured meals and snacks - Avoid pressure on food acceptance - Mealtime behavior - Make maturity demands - Trust their desire to grow - Teach your child how to behave - Avoid Forcing - Obesity - Television
11. The industrious schoolager
    Understanding the school-age child - Early school-age - Late school-age - Parenting the school-age child - Setting limits - Tasks, teaching, and encouragement - Praise and recognition - Working things out with other people - Meals - Idiosyncracies - Managing hunger - Mealtime pleasantries - Single parenting - Snacks - Experimenting with eating - Fluctuations in appetite - Finickiness - Interceding for your child - School lunch - Don't be too protective - Dieting - Let her take the lead
12. The individualistic teenager
    Understanding the adolescent - Physical changes - Patterns of thinking - Sexual maturation - Why parents don't like the teen years - Teaching responsibility - Emotional maturation - Problems - Authoritative parenting - Letting go - Parenting with food - Extremes in eating - Nutritional risks and safety margins - The parent's role - Advice and encouragement - Avoid criticism - Eating for sports - Weight reduction dieting - Eating disorders
13. The child who grows poorly
    Feeding problems should be suspected - Distinguishing poor growth from slow-but-normal growth - Naturally slow growth - The sick child - Problems with breastfeeding - The child who is defiant about eating - The child who won't progress - Failure to thrive - Failure to engage the child - The case of the pursuing parent - Establishing normal feeding
14. Helping all you can to keep your child from being fat
    Maintain a healthy feeding relationship - Using indirect methods - Maintain the structure of meals and snacks - Teach orderly and positive eating - Cut down on feeding cues - Keep the caloric density of food moderate - Don't feed unnecessarily - think of your child as normal when making feeding decisions - Use your own good judgment when setting feeding limits - encourage exercise - Let your child develop the way that's right - Help your child's self-esteem - Redefining the problem - Don't harp on your child's weight - Keep your fingers crossed - Don't be tempted to impose a diet - The cure may not work - Don't blame yourself
15. Eating disorders
    What is an eating disorder? - Stories of eating disorders - The eating behavior continuum - The consequences of dieting - Mid-range eating disorders - Starve-binge cycle - Types of eating behaviors - Treatment - How treatment works - What can we do to prevent eating disorders?
16. Feeding the child with special needs
    The child who has a hard time eating - The child with developmental disabilities - The critically ill child - The child who hasn't eaten - The eating-phobic child - Prematurely born children - Diabetic children - The child who has a hard time with food selection - The child who has a hard time eating enough - Cystic fibrosis - Congenital heart defects - Tube feeding as a supplement to oral feeding - Children with life-threatening diseases - General thoughts on childhood handicaps
17. Tools and strategies
    Recommended daily pattern of food selection - Milk group portion sizes - Meat group portion sizes - Breads and cereals - Fruits and vegetables - Vitamin A in fruits and vegetables - Vitamin C in fruits and vegetables - Fun foods that make nutritional sense - Choosing nutritious snacks - Calorie requirements compared with basic needs - Growth charts

What Others Have Said

"Ellyn Satter is one of the country's foremost experts on how to help children develop good eating habits.... Throughout [the book], she emphasizes good parenting that provides both love and limits, themes that play themselves out in feeding - just as they do in every other aspect of a child's life. If the dinner table is a battlefield for a family you know, Ellyn Satter is a mediator and friend you will want to have."
- Tufts University Diet and Nutrition Letter

"...this book returns the smile to one's face as it graciously removes the strain over 'whither thou, child, shall eat.'"
- Journal of Pediatric Nursing

"...There was an underlying feeling of kindness and understanding.... As a mother I appreciate and am comforted by your warmth and compassion for the overweight child."
- Parent

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